Saturday, June 19, 2010

Summer vacation....


Greta told me on the down low that "normal" Moms don't pack cold blueberry pancakes as snacks for hikes. I told her that I was trying not to get all caught up in being normal. At which she rolled her eyes and said "Whatever Mom." At least she was smiling when she said it.



The heat wilts Greta, and seems to fuel Simon with even more silliness. She wanted to leave the beach and go curl up in a dark cool corner of the house with her book. We compromised and took another swim in the ocean, and then looked for crabs before heading home. She forgot how hot she was for a minute.
One of the things I appreciate about summer is that our shopping list is divided into what we can get at the Farmer's Market, and what we can't. Sometimes I stretch it a little thin in between markets. But our homemade pasta is always a hit.

Little day trips seem less daunting with our school less schedule, and catching up with cousins who also like bulldozers and riding scooters is so rewarding. You can actually feel them growing closer to one another. My sister in law and I often joke about how much trouble we will be in when they're teenagers. Luckily, they are both very gentle boys so far.Anticipating summer vacation made me both excited and a little stressed. But school ended and the worry was for nothing. Everything just naturally shifted into a wonderful little routine of later bedtimes and lots of watermelon. Hiking and swimming and cooking and daily chores, all of it now with two little shadows instead of one.

Sunday, June 13, 2010

A Saturday in June...

I remember what it felt like to go to weddings as a little kid. Wearing a pretty dress, and being allowed the swipe of lip gloss and dab of perfume that smelled so much like being grown up. Seeing men and women that usually wore blue jeans and tee shirts, in ties and high heels. The pack of children that forms, some knowing one another, some not, but all having an important thing in common, parents that were too busy talking and laughing to care about vegetables or bedtimes. Toasting with juice, and keeping a watchful eye on the tower of frosting and flowers that confirms that it's a party.

We went to a beautiful wedding this weekend. We saw and caught up with so many friends at once that I was overwhelmed with processing all of the "since we saw each other last" information, and giving my own out. It was a thoughtful ceremony, a bright and happy reception, and a child's paradise. Greta highjacked my camera and snapped about a million photos. I was annoyed at the time, but grateful today when I downloaded them all, that I was able to see the day through her eyes.

Thursday, June 10, 2010

Mealtime...

"No matter how modest the meal, create a special place to sit down together, and set the table with care and respect. Savor the ritual of the table. Mealtime is a time for empathy and generosity, a time to nourish and communicate." -Alice Waters, The Art of Simple Food.
It was over cold cereal and hot coffee, Stargazer Lilies and bright blue place mats, that our day began, speculating about Greta's upcoming award ceremony. "I'll get something having to do with reading, I always do.." she said.It was over grilled cheeses, and salad with lots of radishes, Sweet William and Daisies, and fizzy water with lemon wedges, that the two, and three year old that I dined with chatted about hearing the train whistle, and wondered, "where's it going?"

It was over baked pesto mac 'n' cheese and steamed broccoli, and a tender little African Violet that we reflected. "Another crazy day", Adam said. But tonight there was chocolate cake for desert, on mismatched little plates that came from all over. Celebrating.

In between, Greta was indeed awarded for her reading, and in addition, a special recognition from her music teacher (that sound you hear is my Dad's heart skipping a syncopated beat), and a "citizenship" award, for being an awesome person.In between I walked to the Farmer's Market with my little charges, in intermittent rain, and bought some veggies, some chicken sausage, a ginger cookie (split, and gobbled immediately), and three stems of Sweet William. We picked some Daisies on our soggy walk back home.In between I negotiated bickering, washed dishes, wiped noses and did the chicken dance.

But during our modest little meals we connected and nourished.

Monday, June 7, 2010

My favorite e-mail...

(No Subject)‏
From: greta bishop (gretadbishop@gmail.com)
Sent: Mon 6/07/10
To: Deidre Dority (deidre.dority@hotmail.com)
dear mommy i love you whats your favorite thing in life


My favorite things...‏
From: Deidre Dority (deidre.dority@hotmail.com)
Sent: Mon 6/07/10
To: greta (gretadbishop@gmail.com)
Hi Honey,

I have lots and lots of favorite things. My favorite color is a tie between yellow and green. My favorite indoor place is the library (do you agree?), and my favorite outdoor place is the beach. My favorite time of day is morning. My favorite food is the homemade pasta that you and I make together. My favorite song changes all the time. But I know for certain that my favorite things in life are you and your brother (even when you make mischief and squabble when I'm trying to make dinner, yup, even then). Thanks for asking. I love you, Mommy.

We spent all day long together, and I am still answering her questions even though she's asleep. Don't get me wrong, I'm not complaining.

Thursday, June 3, 2010

Drizzle...



We are having a rough week. There, I said it. Greta's home from school today. Reason: stiff neck, and too fragile for public school. The only solution I can think of is lots of coloring, a good station on Pandora, and some hot tea. The affirmation on my tea says "The beauty of life is to experience yourself". I'm feeling pretty vulnerable at the moment, but I guess I'll take the advice and sit with it. Thank goodness it's a drizzly day.

Monday, May 31, 2010

Dance...

Greta's dance teacher has on numerous occasions praised her for natural talent, and good listening skills, and then on the sly she would whisper to me "if only we could just switch her brain off". I knew exactly what she meant. Greta likes to be right, she likes there to be one way to do things, she likes to succeed at everything she attempts. It's hard for Greta to let go and dance. It uses the half of her brain that she normally shuts out with reason. When her teacher asked her to join the Spring recital and dance with a mostly older group of ballet students, we agreed, not fully understanding the level of commitment that it would require. There were some pretty hairy moments. Tired, overwhelmed (both Mama and child), weepy, but throughout the whole process her persistence, the part of Greta that holds herself at a safe distance from completely letting go, kept her firmly dedicated. There were moments when I peeked through the window into the dance studio while they were rehearsing, and thought "What were we thinking? They are never going to be able to get this together", but they did. And she let go. And I sat in the dark theatre, watching my daughter's accomplishment, and wept. Big proud Mama sized tears.

Greater than learning her dance steps with precision, were the lessons in friendship and support, and learning that little parts added to bigger parts make something magical. And once the hair gel was shampooed out, and the makeup scrubbed off and stored away, there was a little let down (both Mama and child), but the good kind of let down.


Monday, May 24, 2010

Lately...





I was absolutely certain that they would fall asleep in the car on the way home from the beach, and when they didn't that was okay too. We had popsicles and a bubble bath instead of a nap.






The Spring Fair was successful. I was seriously foggy due to a late night baking session. All stereotypes aside, the PTA is serious business these days, unfortunately.

With just one week to go until her ballet performance, I've noticed that even at rest she's in first position.